Here’s the last in the series of The Five Wounds sent to me by Nicholas. I hope that he sends me more interesting emails. What are your thoughts on them?
Recently a friend read Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self: Finally A Book That Explains Why It’s So Hard Being Yourself also by Lise Bourbeau. She read this in french & gave me a summarized translation. I found it very interesting, I thought you might find it interesting as well. Also by the author is Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself!: The most complete book on metaphysical causes of illnesses & diseases by Lise Bourbeau
There are 5 wounds and we suffer from each one of them in varying degrees. Some of the descriptions may fit and others not because of the uniqueness of each one of us.
Love
Nick
Just as Betrayal is twinned with Abandonment, Injustice is twinned with Rejection.
INJUSTICE
(good posture, nicely proportionned body, body appears rigid and closed)
When the child feels rejected by his same-sexed parent, he/she will then develop a sense of injustice.
The child then becomes a ‘rigid’ thinker.
Because of the rejection, the child switches from loving himself/herself in absolute love to loving according to performance/results.
Rigid thinkers perception is that they will receive love only if they perform correctly, and are fair. Because of the rejection, they want to become perfect by outside standards. They therefore cut themselves off from their feelings, and do everything according to outside (instead of inner) guidance (like being a good student, or going up the corporate ladder, for example).
They therefore rely on concepts such as bad vs good, evil vs nice, right vs wrong, and other outer standards.
They are the most prone to religion since they heavily depend on ‘judjment’, and control themselves to follow a set of external instructions, instead of trusting themselves….
They really have a problem with authority. They believe that people in authority are always right, because that’s what they were taught when young. Yet sometimes, inevitably, it’ll be in conflict with what they feel so they get angry because they can’t be themselves, really.
Since they don’t allow themselves to feel, or to live according to instinct, they become destabilized and insecure if outside sources are not ‘clear’. They fear confusion, but because they don’t allow themselves to ‘feel out’ (they don’t trust their feelings) situations, or what people are saying…. so they like to take things litterally, otherwise they feel lost and confused, and of course angry at people who aren’t ‘clear’
If rigid thinkers followed their own guidance system, they risk being rejected. So they won’t allow it.
Very early on, rigid thinkers (aka anal-retentive people, lol) want to do everything well and correctly. As kids, they had to ‘grow up’ a little too fast…
Rigid thinkers want everything to be PERFECT , and spend too much time preparing.
Because they solely believe in the perform-reward system, they work alot. They think they can only acquire things through hard work and perfection because that’s the only FAIR system, according to them. They therefore close themselves off (subconciously) to chance, and get envious of others when they acquire things more easily. They also spend a lot of time comparing things or other people.
Rigid thinkers think rigidly. Meaning when they have a desire, they think it can only be achieved a certain way, and close themselves off to all or most other possibilities/ways. For example, if they think the only way to getting fit is to go the gym everyday, they will stick to their regimen no matter what, loosing sight of their initial goal. They will shift focus on ‘going to the gym’ (the means) instead of focusing on their goal ‘getting fit’. So if one day they can’t go to the gym, they will 1/ feel guilty and 2/ sit at home not thinking of other ways of getting fit. If they don’t follow ‘instructions’ or ‘plan’, they feel like the whole thing is compromised…
Because of this strict attitude, they won’t allow themselves to rest. They HAVE to follow the plan (like brainwashed soldiers, I guess)…they won’t allow themselves to rest or have fun unless they DESERVE IT. They only treat themselves as rewards to hard work. Otherwise it wouldn’t be fair, and it would be too easy, and that’s not possible according to them.
Rigid thinkers have a BIG problem with receiving (gifts and in general). They think (subconciously) they are not being fair to others who have to work hard. So they feel guilty about it, and because of the great sense of guilt attached, they will eventually loose the gift/money etc…. Extreem rigid thinkers will work hard and not receive anything at all because they think they are not extraordinary enough. Those people tend to suffer from burn-out at work. They get very anxious because they are have an extreme fear of making mistakes. That’s because they are very obsessed on doing what’s RIGHT, and on perfection. They wouldn’t want to be rejected. Also they love TITLES (= reward to working hard, like good grades).
Rigid thinkers are completely cut off from their feelings. They are uncomfortable expressing emotions, and like to appear as though everything is going well, and never admit to others that anything is wrong. Because of this defense-mechanism (they don’t want to feel rejection), they have a great tolerance to physical pain. They won’t feel the pain until the wound or disease gets serious, which can put them in dangerous situations. Because of this lack of feeling, rigid-thinkers can appear cold or aloof to other people (something which they are aware of and don’t like). Rigid thinkers can be easily tricked by others, because they don’t feel them out, they just blindly believe what they say…they don’t want to be unfair, and they want to give others a ’shot’. Rigid thinkers want to be ‘good’ people…Because of this they live in a lot of ANGER.
Since rigid-thinkers are very scared of making mistakes, they attract situations in which they will have to make dificult decisions. For example, whereas controlling people will not commit because they don’t want to betray, rigid-thinkers are scared of picking the wrong partner.
in a nutshell: rigid thinkers in black and white, get caught up with ‘how ‘ to do things, are perfectionnists, don’t open up to alternative ways, closed-minded, don’t allow ‘chance’ to come into their lives, do things out of honor and justice. Work, work and work…do not show their feelings, and don’t ask for help either. Of course they miss out on a lot and don’t even know why, but they do feel very envious of others and are always comparing. Because they won’t allow themselves to be themselves, they CANNOT EXPRESS THEIR INDIVIDUALITY. I think those are the people who easily get trapped in the rat race or who really rebel against it.
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