by 
Auriol Hays
The article was orginally published at: Kill Bill
Yesterday I was going to doing something out of character. It was going to start off with some nasty phone calls and end up with someone being broken and bruised. I would have called a friend who would call another friend (and so on….) so that the person who beat up my sister could get his ass kicked.
I am not a vengeful person. I am not nasty.¬† Years spent looking after my daughter at home has chilled me out significantly but when I got that call from my sister I was so very, very angry and all I could think of was knives, pliers, a drill machine and hot oil. ¬†Anyway I called home, my parents fetched her and a case was made against the bastard. Good ‚Äì the legal bit was taken care of. For a few minutes I felt better ‚Äì until I spoke to my sister. Hearing how scared she was and probably will be for the next while was alarming. And this asshole is not a big man. He does not look menacing. Good lord I could kick his ass! Again my mind was tick, tick, ticking over…
It’s strange how the universe or God makes you face your demons even if you had no intention of ever doing so. I wondered if my father felt any guilt as he looked at my sister. I wondered if he could see that this was the way he made us all feel so many times. Did he get that he is no different from the “thing” that hurt my sister? Or did he conveniently forget?
So yes you could say that this little episode is teaching my sister to stand up for herself ‚Äì because she never felt she could. It is giving her the opportunity to free herself of a person who used and abused her so many times. It is giving my father another chance to heal himself…and all of us the opportunity to move past our anger. There are many silver linings that you could theoretically find. The only trouble is that when you are in the thick of things sometimes you can‚Äôt see it. All you feel is scared…
I am not going to talk to her about bullshit like finding perspective and gaining balance and being careful about what she thinks. I will try to be there for her as she has always been there for me. That man thing will learn (like we all have to) ¬† that there are consequences to every action….
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