Your Body’s Telling You: Love Yourself!: The most complete book on metaphysical causes of illnesses & diseases by Lise Bourbeau which is found excellent.
Recently a friend read Heal Your Wounds and Find Your True Self: Finally A Book That Explains Why It’s So Hard Being Yourself also by Lise Bourbeau. She read this in french & gave me a summarized translation. I found it very interesting, I thought you might find it interesting as well.
There are 5 wounds and we suffer from each one of them in varying degrees. Some of the descriptions may fit and others not because of the uniqueness of each one of us.
Hope you get something out of it.
(physical characteristic = very thin)
Reaction = running away
Happens earliest in life, is the most powerful wound
To reject somebody is actually is like ‘push them out’, to me it feels like a wall, a great sense of separation
Subconsciously, the person doesn’t want to take up too much space or to stand out, because that would mean risking more rejection¬† (that’s why the person is thin).
This person desn’t feel like he has the right to exist. The body feels like it’s fragmented in several areas (sense of separation)
Avoids eye contact, eyes look empty & full of fear.
Mother tends to overprotect this ‘vulnerable’ child, and so the person feels like he/she needs some breathing room. As an adult, this person will avoid relationships because he/she doesn’t want to be smothered. The ‘vulnerable child’ had adults do everything for him/her and as a result feels rejected in his/her abilities.
The runnaway doesn’t like material stuff because he/she feels trapped (since he wants to be able to runaway). Looks down at materialism, believing spiritualism is superior. Same attitude towards sex.
the same-sex parent teaches us to love, to love ourselves and to give love.
the opposite-sex parent teaches us to receive love.
The rejection wound stems from our same-sex parent relationship. Since we don’t want to use this parent as a role-model, we don’t accept being the same sex as that parent. We reject ourselves. We want to disappear, we think we are worthless and therefore we are constantly trying to prove our worth towards others. If he takes up too much room, he/she feels in the way of others. When included in a group, he doesn’t understand why others might actually like him, and when he’s not part of a group, he feels rejected. Feels uncomfortable when getting attention because he doesn’t feel like he deserves it. Takes everything personally: for example, if someone cuts him off, he’ll feel offended, instead of assuming that what he was saying was maybe uninteresting. Compares himself to others.
The runaway wants to become invisible and doesn’t like social situations
The runaway either doesn’t speak at all, and if he/she speaks, it’s only to brag (trying hard to prove his/her value).
Solution: accept that your same-sexed parent has rejected you, believe you are intrinsically valuable, even if you do or say nothing, and that you deserve attention, comfort & love (just like when you were a baby, you don’t need to ‘earn’ anything to accept love). Stop comparing & judging, and trying to be perfect. People are allowed to reject you, just as you are allowed to reject other people.
related illnesses: skin (because you reject yourself and don’t want to attract other people), diarehea (rejection of situation), nausea, passing out, hypoglycemia…(runaway tactics)